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Coupling up bestows permission to say things (e.g., about your sweetie's butt) that might not otherwise be appropriate. However, there's a very thin line, over which you ought not to step Cheap Nike Vapormax , between criticism and comments such as that made by Dale. Criticism trashes emotional intimacy. Here's why: To be justified in criticizing another person, the following must be true:
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Your sweetheart's boss, drill sergeant, mother Cheap Air Max 95 , coach, personal trainer, or professor may meet that criteria but, as your partner's equal, you do not. What you are (or should be) is the one person on the planet who your partner can always, absolutely Cheap Air Max 97 , no questions asked, no doubt about it, count on for support. If you want emotional intimacy (and who doesn't) then never, ever cause your partner to question that support.
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